Building Hope Today > About Us > Family Track

Family Track

Family Track

Grooming is employed by sexual abusers of children in the majority of incidents. In 90% of cases, the abuser is known and trusted by the family. The abuser will often try to develop relationships with the family of their victim to gain access. Despite there being clear warning signs of grooming behaviors there remains little to no professional and community education in preventing, protecting, and responding to children from predatory behaviors involving grooming. Please join us and see what you can do to be educated in the steps of grooming and prevention.

We have found many families share, “If I would have known the steps of grooming, I may have seen it and stopped it.” These words and the desire for preventative education are shared too often after the fact. Loved ones and natural protectors of our children often get groomed as well, putting guards down and having belief that the actual perpetrator values the family and has the child’s best interest. Preventative education on the steps of grooming is what we want families to have access to. It is well known that engaging families, protectors of children, and communities in understanding prevention and the steps of grooming is the main way we can end these unfortunate acts against our beautiful children.

Understanding the Steps of Grooming

Education is a vital part of what all family and community members can get involved with to make a difference in ending child sexual abuse. Understanding the Steps of Grooming will make a dramatic difference in how abusers manipulate families and gain access to children. This knowledge will also allow our families and communities to build stronger connections and open communication with the children in our lives for a very serious issue. Building Hope Today wants everyone to learn and talk about the following steps of grooming so that all people can work on keeping children safe.

7 Steps of Grooming

  1. Identifying and targeting the victim
  2. Gaining trust and access
  3. Playing a role in the child’s life
  4. Isolating the child
  5. Creating secrecy around the relationship
  6. Initiating sexual contact
  7. Controlling the relationship

It is important to not only understand these 7 steps of grooming but to know how to talk about them with your family and community. Please utilize the Family Pack, described below, as a resource to learn more.

Building Hope Today Parent Pack

Building Hope Today believes in prevention. Prevention is taking steps necessary to ward off the statistical potential of children having unfortunate acts done against them. The key to prevention is to have an educational conversations with our children. Building Hope Today has worked to create an educational tool that allows families and community members to both engage in understanding grooming, opening up channels of communication, and be an example to others by posting “My child is not a target”, within their home. Children deserve protection and we know that the Family Pack will assist you in learning about what you can do to safeguard our children.

Understanding predatory strategies is a very important tool in prevention and creating hope-filled tomorrows for children. The Family Pack is one of those tools that will allow for families, educators, health care providers and community to have access to this knowledge. Building Hope Today’s Family Pack will expose you to the following:

  • The pandemic issue of Child Sexual Abuse and its prevalence – Many people are NOT aware of how big and how close to home this problem is. Research shows that 1 out of 4 girls and 1 out of 6 boys are abused by the time they turn 18 and 90% are said to be abused by individuals the family may know and trust. It is also important to understand that sexual abuse occurs in every race, social class, religion, and by both men and women.
  • Steps of Grooming – There are seven steps that child abusers use to gain access to their victim. The Family Pack contains more detailed information about what those step are and how they are employed on the child. It is common that the loved ones and natural protectors of the child were groomed as well, this being the case can easily weaken the protection the child would otherwise have.
  • How to have Preventative Conversations within our families and our communities – Conversations about child sexual abuse and how to prevent it may feel awkward or unnatural at first. We encourage all individuals to try and put those feelings aside and read through methods of starting conversations about bodily safety, autonomy, boundaries, what is appropriate, what is not, and more. There is also an activity structured in the pack to help you have children participate in easy to understand and appropriate ways.
  • Create a Communication Pathway – Children do not always know how or have the skill to communicate an uncomfortable experience, or if they have been violated with wrongful and unfortunate acts against them. The truth is they DO NOT always have “words” to tell a parent or loved one. It is every parent and loved ones desire to know when their child may be in danger or that something has occurred to them. The average years of a victim to report these acts is 20.1 years. We want to encourage familes by helping create a communication pathway for a child to share, “something is bothering me”, “I don’t feel safe” or “something is wrong”. You need an SOS call, per say, that is an easy way for any age of a child to communicate. That could be done using a symbol or a safty word. There is an activity available in the pack that helps with this.

As we gain knowledge ourselves, we are building for much larger change in prevention of child sexual abuse. This communication pathway is helpful for you to be able to have conversations if you have suspicion or see that boundaries are being violated. If we see signs of abuse, it is important that we are ready to talk or ask appropriate questions.

Post “My Child/Children are NOT a Target”. After being educated we have to lead the way in letting people know that we are talking about this issue. We have provided a certificate worthy declaration that you are asked to post in your home, displaying that your child has been educated and are not a target of unfortunate acts against them.

If You find value in our parent pack, please help us donate packs to help with community prevention for child abuse:

What Can I Do to Help?

  • What Can I Do to Help?

Every person in a community has the chance to stand up and save children from sexual abuse. So first, we thank you for coming to the Building Hope Today website and reading through the work that we will continue to do.
Child sexual abuse is the most prevalent health problem for children and due to this, it is a family and community issue. You can help build hope filled tomorrows by engaging with the education curriculum in the Parent Pack. You can also help by donating, sharing, and referring people through the tabs below. Building Hope Today needs every partner possible for this work, we hope that you will join us.

Get Involved Today and Make a Difference GET INVOLVED